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he is totally in control of the relationship and can decide when to see me and when not to see me. I also am reminded that he doesn't have as much vested in the relationship emotionally.

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you are each in control of your part in the relationship; he is only in control of his part of the relationship and you are in control fo your part in it . but I understand how it feels that he is has more control.