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she had started over the past maybe 8 months to year, wanting to start going out the the clubs and drinking and getting drunk and stuff again... I thought she had gotten that all out of her system in the beginning of our relationship....but I had told her I really had no desire to do that all again...an she h
ad a friend she used to work with that she talks to that she wanted to go out to eat with and go out drinking with and go to her house and get drunk and
stuff...Thats all this woman does....and when I told her I had no interest in doing it, she came up with the whole thing that I hated her friend and I didnt want her going out and having fun....I never told her I didnt want her going out, I just didnt want to....but then she came back with.. but then I leave you here at home alone.......I told her that was ok....but that wasnt good enough for her.......I do know for a fact since I have left she has been going out and gettin trashed.....

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The difference in your attitudes toward drinking and nightlife sounds significant to me. I don't think there is such a thing as a good relationship between two people, where one wants to go bar-hopping and drinking fairly heavily, while the other does not.

A movie called Days of Wine and Roses dealt with just that topic. The guy gets sober, but his wife gets deeper into alcoholism. She ends up telling him he's no fun anymore and leaves him. It sounds to me like your ex has an escalating drinking problem. That can make a person not want a non-drinker around. You notice she's gravitating toward someone who'll drink with her.

I'ld highly recommend you see that movie. Also, you might want to attend a few Al-Anon meetings. (There for people whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.)