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Originally Posted by The Green Manalishi
Mine is too old to change. Plus she never owns up to anything. She's an instigator, but always manages to come out as the victim.
I moved in with mine 4 years ago, after my divorce. It was only going to be temporary, but I'm still there because of her health issues...so I'm her caregiver. I can't afford to live on my own right now...so I feel like a prisoner.
I doubt your mother or mine will ever see the error of their ways. That's about all we can do is to let it slide, even though it's hard. We don't deserve that kind of criticism from our own mothers.
Don't let it get you down.
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Yes, my mother is always the victim too and will never admit she is wrong.
Sorry to read you find yourself stuck in this live-in caregiver role, that must be difficult. I haven't lived with mine for almost 19 years, had a short break away with her last month and after 3 days was very grateful to back home.
You are right, my T said in no uncertain terms I had to reconcile myself to the fact my mother would never change. A few years after my therapy my mother ended up seeing the same T after a referral via her Dr - I often wonder what those sessions were like.
Needless to say she did not finish the therapy and thought it pointless.