well thinking and analyzing what you're doing or not doing is pretty natural in situations like this. dont' beat yourself up too much for trying to "figure it out".

The truth tho, is there is really no standard or set way that you should behave or not behave, only do what comes natural. If going out of your way to be aloof is unnatural, then it's probably not right. If being too eager is not, then so on and so forth. The thing is every guy is going to be different and you can't have a "catch all" plan that will be effective 100% of the time. This is why doing what comes natural is the best way. You won't catch the attention of everyone but neither will you do so trying to be something you're not. AT least when you do get a connection while being yourself there is no issue once you have hit it off. If you're being fake or doing things to ttry to hook a guy (or a woman in the case where someone is looking for that) then once things seem to progress you'll find yourself in the dilemma of whether you continue to be that person or start to be natural and most times it doesn't work out then

I hope I make sense. In a nutshell do what you feel is most comfortable. The right guy is the one that will find YOU attractive and interesting, whether you are naturally aloof or eager.