Quote "Since my husband leaves at 6, I will purposely leave my dishes in the sink, a fruit peel or too and a little mess that he can clean or not as he gets home 2 hours before me. Since that is one of the petty things he *****es about latey since he has become on the edgle of a breakdown lately, I channel my depression in passive agressve fun and use it on hubby. I smoke in the car now -- i won't let him take a lawn chair out of the living room,"

That's horrible and you sound smug which I find disturbing. No one has had more reason to be nasty to others than me and I have never stooped to that sort of behaviour. I am sorry if your relationship with your husband has been less than satisfactory or if there are other things that I don't know about but on the basis of your post, your behaviour is passive aggressive, calculated and nasty particularly given your comment that you are aware that he is on the verge of a breakdown. Please be better than that.