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Old Sep 15, 2016, 07:00 AM
justme1234 justme1234 is offline
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Originally Posted by BudFox View Post
Maybe this therapist is just more honest than most. What are therapists doing in many cases if not having a strange sort of paid friendship with their clients, or maybe paid mentorship? Many of them talk about the therapeutic alliance as the main thing. To me that is code for paid friendship. When a therapist says "we are friends" I can see how that adds to the already confusing and ambiguous nature of therapy. But in my experience, not saying this does not make things any clearer. In fact when therapists insist on framing things in clinical terms, then proceed to cultivate the sort of familiarity and intimate disclosure normally associated with friend and partner relationships, seems just as confusing to me.
I think the biggest issue that I have is that she knew, and I think I understood that when I provide my friendship to somebody, it's solid. I can't go into a friendship thinking that one day I won't ever see them. With my other friends, sure I don't get to see them at anytime I want, but I know they will make time for me at some point. If they need help, I'm there to offer whatever I can, I enjoyed that part of friendship also, providing it.

The first time that she said we were friends I fought it and fought it, and she made me believe.it just makes me feel really horrible that she's never going to treat me like an actual friend.