I'm not asexual but if someone calls me hot I feel uncomfortable I just feel naked to them. I never understood also why I would need to call someone hot so that they can have the reassurance? I never got it. I always thought it was more of a thing you said to let someone know you are into them. I am not one of those girls that like it, it makes me feel like you are just after me for my beauty or body parts. Also, I am not someone that puts a lot of value in looking for a partner with good looks it has and will always be about what they make me feel. I guess I am not defined as asexual I just am a little bit more reserved and just feel a little more relaxed if I am not in the spotlight. I think I am more of an avoidant type if you were to ask me in terms of personality. In fact, I have no idea why I haven't been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. I definitely go overboard with placing boundaries on myself and others.