A bit of an update. I offended my friend today. But is that not what friends are for - to intervene when t's neccessary?

I admit I went a round about way and was pretty much passive agressive but think I drew her around to understanding she really needs to step up to the plate and see that the boy gets to school.

Okay, as for visitation. I am strugglng here with communicating her responsibilities. I tried to suggest to her that his dad may have his own feelings about maintaining his school studies. Unfortunately she took this to mean I was saying he would shirk his own responsibilities which would mean he didn't want the boy (I can't win it seems).