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eskielover said:
Lifesaver54,

I have a few questions that just hit me when reading your post....things that just don't make sense to me.

You talk about all through your marriage your husband let your children disrespect you. Why in the world in the beginning didn't YOU make your children respect you? That shouldn't be your husbands job any more than it's yours & your relationship with your children.

You say they were never abused by you, you loved, supported, & encouraged.....I think you missed teaching them respect & responsibility....that is the job of both parents not just one or the other.

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I know this one was not directed at me..... but I felt the need to reply since I have been thru a similar situation with my own two sons that are now 22 & 17.

I did teach my sons about RESPECT - of me their dad and others.... and they were very good about it until about mid way thru their teens years - when the male testosterone kick in.

This was also about the time their dad my husband took a down fall morally and he became a womanizer and started using porn for his sexual & emotional need instead of coming to me, therefore, you may have guess it the RESPECT he once showed outwardly for ME took a down fall as well (and) the boys were very much a ware of this, and learning from it.

Kids learn more from watching than they do from hearing (and) parents are their #1 role models in life, let alone the mirror image of how a man / woman are to be as they mature and grow up.

SO, you see it may not have been an issue of Lifesaver54 not teaching her kids right from wrong when they were young, but rather that of them learning (seeing) from their old man as they themselves entered the stage of "Man in Training".

Just my .2 cents and thoughts on this matter from my side of the fence.