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Originally Posted by Fharraige
I suffer from perfectionism as well. However, I'm sill trying to work this out and don't have any solutions. One aspect, though, that I learned is that the cognitive distortion of black-or-white thinking is predominant. So, the thing is that if one can't do it right the first time then one doesn't do it at all. There is also catastrophic thinking as well. My therapist gave me a magazine article from 1980 that described a lot of it. I get overwhelmed by anything that even looks complicated, and it's holding me back from doing certain hobbies.
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Hi Fharraige,
Yes, complicated things will translate into "chaos" , and therefore no obvious way to find a solution to the issue at hand. I think being aware of the perfectionistic tenancies, and prioritizing " what is important" will focus our cognitive abilities. I saw positivity also contribute to the solution. As a black or white thinking, I always focus on the negative aspect " what if there is no solution, what if there could be something wrong with this or that, ... et". which leads me to think and believe the issue is a failure from the start. So I guess positivity, and accepting the imperfection could help.
my best wishes.