Thank you two very much. I feel a lot better, and not as guilty now.

Sometimes it's hard to tell if I'm being fair or not.

I made a big deal about it (although we didn't fight or anything), so he seems aware that our relationship might end soon, as sad as it is.

I feel really bad about ending the relationship, though. I think I worry that I won't find someone better. Despite his faults, I don't think he's a bad person.

I mean, it's really hard to find someone these days who'll love you and respect you.

But, I'm not afraid to break up. I couldn't go on with this for the next 20 years.

My boyfriend says he's happy, and I'm glad he is and would feel bad that ending the relationship would take that away from him. I also feel sad that he can be happy while I'm not.

About what he does in his room, as far as I can tell, he chats to people and friends online. Chat rooms is definitely one of those things. I strangely wouldn't feel too bad if he watched porn, but I'm worried that he's getting his shut-off emotional needs from someone else. I don't want to be only the physical girlfriend... The one he showcases to friends and family.

I'm also worried that this concern and time spent working on our relationship is taking away from my feeling of peace and livelihood. I just don't go out and have fun anymore.

Oh, yes, we do sleep together. But sometimes he's up in his room (his private room) so much that we might not fall asleep together too often, which I found okay overall.

I can understand why he keeps his door closed and spends time alone when he's working. It's just that he does it so much that I do get hurt and start to feel unloved, especially since I know he's not always working on stuff but just wants to keep me away.

Yeah, he keeps his door closed. I started doing that too, since I felt so uncomfortable with his door closed that I felt that I needed to close mine, especially when I hear him talking or laughing with his friends occasionally. I'd feel bad overhearing their conversations, so that's another reason I end up closing my door. Maybe for the next week while deciding if we could remain together, I should try keeping my door open again.

I understand that there's nothing outright wrong with what he's doing, but maybe he's just not for me. If he really needs that much time behind closed doors to be happy, than I should probably not stay with him, for his and my sake. For his sake because he'd have an unhappy girlfriend who doesn't like him for how he naturally is...