It's kinda sad, don't you think? So much technologies to help us do things faster, and yet, even less time. imagine the times when people had to work miles to work or ride in carriages with horses for days to visit someone in the nearby town... There were times when nothing was easy, yet, it seems people had more time for each other then than we have now. We are soooo busy busy busy, and one day we will be 90 and wondering what happened to our lives. We live for work, live for obligations and chores, we barely have time for our children, let alone friends or relationship partners. And it's not just time... As I wrote, I am much busier than him, as a single mom who works full time. But.. I am one of those people who like small tokens of affection, I am just like that. I will be happy if someone gives me a cheap card with photo of puppy, or candy bar or take me somewhere cute to have a tea, or whatever, it may be cheep or free just to be something enjoyable and sweet. It means so much to me. It's silly I know, but that's who I am. He says it's not him. He never gives presents. Once I told him he should buy his mom something sweet for her Birthday but he said "I don't do that". He said as a freelancer he mostly had no money and that is tough. He can't afford to buy even cheapest presents. But she would be so happy with something small, I know that. I would be. Still no. So, I have to change for relationship but he can't? Both men I dated were like that, requested for me to change, but they-hell no! I have to accept them as they are.
Campervanman, there is no hurting. As I wrote, it's not the time, I have no time either, it's the fact that he puts everything else before me, I "just" need to fit in. I am tired of fitting in everyone's schedule and walking on eggshels trying not to disturb anything in their lives. i am tired of being the last on the lists, like if everyone else cancels then they call me. I am tired of being someone who "sees friends" only when we run into each other by accident.