Well...it's possible to acknowledge the transference, explore it in therapy, grieve the lack in your life that spawned the transference , and learn to accept the T relationship as its own unique and special thing.

Its hard though.

And the *T* needs to be up to the task. They need to have dealt with their own stuff, developed an ability to absorb anger etc without being offended, know how to be kind and tender while helping you learn that they can't be a parent but they can be a very important figure in your life.

Unfortunately from what I see here on PC, a lot of Ts haven't done the work on their own lives that is required to help someone resolve tranaference