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i am screwing up the process but don't want to leave.

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Alright, there is something really, really important that you need to know. You are not screwing up the process. It is up to the therapist to set and maintain the boundaries and to guide the client into maintaining the appropriate boundaries as well. This is not your fault. You did not force her to reveal information about herself-- that was her choice.

You also mentioned that you want to 'console as a friend would'-- is she telling you about her traumatic experiences? Its just that you shouldn't have to feel responsible for your therapist's feelings in regards to her traumas. It is fine for a T to self disclose if it going to benefit the client therapeutically, but in your case it sounds as though it's just mixing up the feelings... the focus should always be on you.

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I should have picked someone else when we hit it off right away from the get go....

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Again, don't blame yourself. Why would anyone pick someone else if they connected with a therapist right from the start? That's a beautiful thing... unfortunately it got a bit lost in the process.

Have you ever talked to her about this?

Or do you believe it has gone to far to be able to work together as therapist-client?