I haven't managed to work through any transference with any of my ts and have had some kind of transference with all of them. Two of them erotic and the others maternal. None of them had been able to handle it and ended up making it all worse. Current t has been able to contain her feelings mostly when I get mad at her. This is the only thing I am grateful for when my transference towards her turns negative and she doesn't react or take the hook. She always waits a day before replying and calmly says we will focus this in our next session. Others ts have reacted and this ends up with me succeeding in pushing them away and me feeling like I have been abandoned again.
I don't think it would do any harm to share your feelings with your t about wanting him to be your father. I think it could really open up a lot of your work together. If you feel safe with him, I would mention it to him but are you prepared for knowing the truth yet that he can't and will never be able to be your father and the feelings that will come up after this is acknowledged. Do you think you and your t can hold these feelings?