Why are you with this T, still? From your posts, it sounds like there are a whole lot of red flags -- your instinct in seeing it as more than just about time / money is bang-on I'd say -- and little that you're getting out of it?

I understand the power of inertia and attachment but this doesn't seem healthy? And, it doesn't sound like it's something you can actually work out with a T -- because, he seems to have failed in rather fundamental ways.

I'd say look for another T.