I'm sorry to hear of your situation. My sister is going through the same thing, after 20 years. She wanna to leave him, and he refuses to seek couples therapy. It's male pride. I'm going through a break up myself, 2 years together. I wish we would go through counseling, as I really do love him. But I fear it's too late. Take care, now is a good time to have a discussion about what it is you both want.