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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25
I don't talk in meetings either. Only rarely. We have a lot of meetings at school and I usually sit there silently, taking it all in. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing.
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I don't think it's a bad thing either, but my boss does! He says one of my responsibilities is to talk during meetings... which is bs. I'm a listener, not a talker.
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Originally Posted by bizi
Thank goodness I am self employed. I have social anxiety issues as well.
In response, what did you say to your supervisor?
bizi
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I said that I do try to engage in meetings, but then he said, "When you came to visit us in Europe, you sat there silently." But that wasn't true at all. I did participate in meetings a little bit.
The meetings where I did talk happened to be when he wasn't in the room. I'm not nervous around him per se; it was just bad luck/timing.
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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
Wow! Must have been affirming to have your performance review go so well! 
As far as hoping to increase verbal participation in meetings, there's no guarantee we'll always say the right thing at the right time.
However, chances are you will have the right message or suggestion with the right timing. Why do I think so? You do so here. Repeatedly.
I am super careful about talking when I am hypomanic; otherwise, I trust myself.
You will build more confidence in yourself via increasing your verbal participation, even just a little.
Congrats on the positive performance review!
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Thanks, but I don't always have the right message or suggestion in real life. At least on here, I have time to think about how I want to respond. When I'm talking in person, I have to come up with a response on the spot, and well, my social anxiety sometimes causes me to get too nervous to the point I say something really stupid.
I guess there are two things I'm struggling with: (1) I want to overcome my social anxiety and open up more, while (2) having a solid reputation at work for saying intelligent/insightful things. I don't want to talk a lot and say a lot of stupid things that I'll regret because then I come across as someone you don't want to work with, which is obviously bad.