Living with someone for 29 years is hard work. It's not surprising that they get on our nerves. You have nothing to be ashamed of and therapy gives you a good outlet to express your feeling towards your spouse. My first marriage only lasted 24 years. Maybe if I had talked more I would still be married to him but I didn't. I bottled everything up and played the part of a happy person in a wonderful marriage. That was a joke. I still regret not trying harder.