I would be a little cautious of the getting your way part of it affect whether it's safe to do trauma work if you are triggered and unstable. There was some discussion of whether unilateral decisions are ever OK , but I make decisions with my EMDR that it's not good to do it if I am unstable - we have to be safe and it's also our T's responsibility to see that we are , it's those cognitive skills of seeing responding/reacting.