You might want to have an agreement with her that if she feels it's having a harmful effect, she can back off and talk to you about it. I imagine it puts her in a bind to move forward with something she sees as potentially triggering. Compromise is not a bad idea. As long as you are involved in the decision making, that's what's matters. This therapist's approach sounds very different than your first one, less dictatorial and authoritarian, but she still has an interest in providing a safe space for you. Maybe just play it by ear tomorrow and be open to trusting your gut on this?