Realized I never updated here after talking to MC about his answering a call in session. Saw him Friday, and was unsure of bringing up phone thing. So H took care of that for me. Conversation went OK, I said a few times how it bothered me because it was a client, and it wouldn't have if it had been a family member. Mentioned at one point something about "because of the situation in his family, I understand why you have to check your phone" (his wife has a serious health condition that requires a home health worker—I believe she’s in a wheelchair.) He said the main reason he has to check his phone during session (well, other than family) is for these teenager intensive treatment placements he does as part of his practice, that some of them are really high-risk, in bad places, etc. That it was fine for us to bring up the phone call thing, etc. But I got the sense it wasn't something he was going to change, the having his phone on and looking at it during session when he got a call/text, and occasionally answering it.

He then turned the conversation to the fact that I'd mentioned "family members" so many times in discussing the phone and his concern that us knowing stuff about his family was interfering with the therapy. He said that the support/caring should just go in one direction in therapy, and that it might be going both ways here, which means he messed up (even though some of what I know about his wife was from something I accidentally overheard). It ended up being pretty upsetting to me, but won't elaborate more here--see the In Session Today thread if you want more on that.