Expectations are just the application of standards. It's fine to have standards. Things get disappointing when a person or situation doesn't meet those standards. Believing they will somehow magically change to meet those standards is wishful thinking. We can either try to effect change through negotiation, or conclude that we need something or someone different.
Everyone has to look at their standards to see if they are realistic, but at the same time some things are just non-negotiable.
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