Hmmm. An interesting statement. I think the key here is intent. Whether u do or say something indirectly or straight forward. What is the intent? My husband's intent was to make me feel badly enough that I would do what he wanted. In my thinking....why would you do that to someone you love and respect? He is fine with hurting my feelings to get what he wants. That is the core of the matter. And it doesn't happen once in a while...it happens fairly frequently.
And the comments don't make me feel guilty in a way that I have some inner guilt about doing something wrong...they actually just make me angry and mad. And hurt. I guess the better phrase would have been...he is manipulating me....rather then saying guiltily me.
Don't get me wrong. ..people manipulate in a daily basis, it's part of dealing with people and relationships. But what happens when it is done with I'll intent? Is this still ok?
I'm sorry..but I still say no.