LT, I saw that post of yours, but I can't tell if that's a thread where it's acceptable to comment or not (like the Dear T thread). My take on your mc's concern is that he feels badly that all this time his phone has been going off, you've been carrying concern about his family, when in fact it was mainly these other clients' crises. So, he saw a direct result of your knowing about his wife's condition as something that was causing you unnecessary angst. It doesn't matter how you came to know--that it was from office staff--he feels responsible for the fact that it has added to your burdens. It seems like a very human response and not at all how some therapists might turn it into a pathologizing thing about the dangers of transparency and disclosure. He sounds like a very caring guy, LT, and honest about his feelings. I think it's all good.