When things we already knew are confirmed, it can hurt so, so much.

Obviously I know that that my T has other clients. However, I've always been (semi) able to deal with that because I deluded myself into thinking I'm his only client. Well the other day before he came to get me in the waiting room, I heard him say goodbye to someone. It could have very well been one of the other therapists but it may have also been a client-- and I got so jealous that I became enraged and terribly hurt (of course I didn't share this w/ him).

So I know exactly what it feels like to "know" something and then to really know something. Ugh. It hurts.

I'm sorry, sweetie.

But no matter what she said about the transference, she still in this with you. You guys will work through it together.