I am sorry to hear that your wife has said this. I know there are two sides to everything, I was the wife who wanted to leave after 28 years. There was a LOT going on and neither side was right or wrong, it just was. The biggest issue though was ....he spent 5 years traveling to a job in another state after his military retirement...monday through friday he was gone. so basically we saw each other on saturdays and part of sunday...for 5 years. We went to counseling 5 different times over 8 years. bottom line was...he liked working like that (after being a workaholic for many years prior) and I didn't protest loud or long enough against his work life. I had even asked about moving to where his job was and he said 'no, I make more money like this'. (per diem, travel pay, gas allowance)

there's more to all of it obviously...my mental health issues that showed up after we were married 20 years...all of the separations from the military...we just...became different people who were not able to follow the same path together anymore.

I don't know what all has happened in your lives, if you have tried counseling, if there are mental health issues that are causing troubles. perhaps things can be fixed...or not. what I do know is, both parties have to be willing and IN IT...for counseling to work. for us. at first he was not...then as the last ditch effort I was not. and that is when he admitted that he had left me on purpose, because "I wasn't working on getting better"...I have bipolar 1...it doesn't get 'better' it is managed. it will never go away, be cured, or whatever he thought should happen. so. it is what it is. and we are divorced, initially it was pretty hard for us both, but he is doing better, I am doing better and we are happier apart. and somehow able to talk together, text sometimes and be in the same room together and be friendly.

I do wish you the best