When does the point that someone understands the hurt, the loneliness, the brokenness of what you are trying to get to the other side of?

Why is it that you share the brokenness with your closest other, by marriage. The response is, as always, "it's not MY fault". "I'm not going to get blamed for this!"

My heart asked, in truthfulness, to please hear and acknowledge the hurt, please show some compassion. Please show some emotion, besides anger towards them, for me.

Question. Two kids. One bites the other one. My question to him. Which one do you address? Do you punish and get angry at the one who bit, or do you comfort and love the one who was bitten?

His answer. "I would "punish" the one who bit.

My reply is "I'm the one with the marks and hurt, wanting comfort and compassion."

He had no reply so here I am by myself. I need to go to bed.

Thank you for hearing me!!