I'm finding I dissociate a lot with this whole car buying thing we are going through. I'm worried I will make a bad decision because I'm on autopilot. I have my wife there with me, but she just goes along with whatever the dealer says. She readily agrees to a monthly payment we can't afford until I bring it into question...

I've tried several grounding techniques to keep present at the dealership, but so much of the situation is triggering on so many levels. I've asked to have other people there with us, but no one wants to go (understandably). I've tried making a plan with my wife about what questions to ask, what our maximum budget is, how to let her know i'm dissociated, but that all seems to go out the window when we get there. She passes all control back to me, even when I'm not really there.

Has anyone dealt with major financial decisions when having dissociative issues? Any tips? We don't really have anyone we can get to come with us that will do anything besides be another body. I don't feel confident in not agreeing to a bad financial decision just to get out of there (and because we really need a car asap)...

Thanks.