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Originally Posted by Gs550
I don't want to completely hijack the thread, but I was in this forum to ask a related question. For those of you for whom it took many years to form a connection with your therapist, were the first few years any help? Someone told me if I don't have a connection with my therapist I won't get any benefit from therapy.
I have never developed any sort of connection with my therapists. In fact, I think if I did, I would probably stop going. I am creeped out by the idea.
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It definitely helped before hitting that deeper level of connection. It's not like I wasn't connected to T at all in the first few years--but just comparing the level of connection in the past year and a half, it's considerably different. Though to be honest, I wonder if some of my lack of connection in the beginning may have been a bit of negative maternal transference (she's my mom's age and has some personality traits that remind me of my mom). But I feel like I needed that stronger connection to share certain, more painful/deeper-seated/hidden things, if that makes sense.
The marriage counseling is harder to say, since some of that was also my H not being open about stuff. Well, and me not being fully open about stuff. So that's a more complex therapy situation. But feeling more connected to him helped me open up more and maybe the same with H? (Not sure where he falls on the whole connection with T thing.)