Children who are abused do tend to get stuck maturity-wise as children. One reason abused and neglected children are less mature is that if we had good parents, it would be them who teaches us how to mature. But also, if you look up the hierarchy of needs, I think that explains a lot. We get stuck at one level, trying to get that need fulfilled, and there is no room to grow.

My stepmother, the abuser, and my dad, her protector, always commented about how immature I was. Well... Thank you, its their fault! I am learning that all these things that they criticized me for, it was their responsibility to teach to me to begin with. EMDR is helping me to put things where they are supposed to be.