KarenSue,
Really helpful response. I had already been thinking overnight about the posting and realized that I have sort of an overanxious response to some of the the things my husband says. I also "spoil" my spouse and he spoils me too. However, he is very direct while I tend to be non-confrontational. We met while both serving on active duty. We were both military officers but I was not the typical highly disciplined type. He was from a military family and grew up on bases. Works in a STEM field, being detailed is second nature to him. We do kid about it. I confuse him and when his nature is to demand an immediate, precise, clarification to what I have just said, sometimes I can laugh about it but when I began "losing it" (MI), my thinking became very distorted (Is he manipulating me?). He really isn't that sort of person.