Well it didn't start out that way.

She was arrested for (trigger) domestic abuse against him (/trigger)
And he dropped the charges if she went to anger management. But there was a protective order against her, so all custody exchanges happened in front of a police office.
After the court nonsense baxk and forth for 2.5 years, the judge put it in the order that the child therapist was the first place to go for disputes, not back to court.
And its working!

Ive looked up coparenting, and ive researched parallel parenting. And they def dont coparent. They more "parallel parent"
(Your rules are your rules. My rules are my rules. Our assigned custody time is in a court order that we dont alter. If there is an issue we talk to a mediator who then relays the message.)

Its unfortunate in my opinion, but after what she did to him, i cant blame him for his own safety.

Same advice goes for you