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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Hmmmm, not sure how to tread on an answer. I make my comment with great difficulty.
There is no ignorring that whatever you did it was bad enough to warrant a protection order. At least you are acknowledging it. I will say my concern is for her as she seems to be ignorring the measures put in place for her (and your family's ?) safety. I personally don't find her behavior appropriate in this case. It suggests to me a co-dependency. Both of you need help. The best thing you can do if you care for this woman is to urge her to get professional help. I would seek out some for yourself.
You have mentioned alcohol fuelled this. Perhaps AA is in order? I would recommend she seek out Al-Anon for her own support requirements.
Finally, I am not suggesting you don't continue to see her but I don't believe private time is in order.
Again, I am fully aware I rock the boat here but my intent is to actually be helpful.
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I hear you but she only removed the order on herself to talk to me as she told them she did not want on on herself to start with. She needed answers and to talk to help decide what to do next. I was honest and answered everything truthfully to the best I could and even though I hurt her and one other in house bad she gave me a chance. The goal is to get help I need to make sure it never happened again and better myself and us in the process. I quit drinking and I am on a waiting list for counseling not singles and marriage. I love her allot it seems like it took a huge mess up to realize how much I do love them all. I keep telling myself that maybe us breaking up is what is best choice but at same time neither one of us wants that. Ugh wish I could just go back in time and fix before all this.