Obviously you know you can't go back & undo what you have done. Maybe this was also a good thing because I'm guessing that you didn't even acknowledge you had a problem before this happened? Otherwise you wouldn't have allowed it to get so far out of control.

Seems to me that the only way you can assure that this doesn't happen again is to make sure you never drink or use alcohol ever again. Not even in a social setting. It's going to take a lot of determination on your part.

I have seen marriages that have failed because of alcohol be repaired but ONLY if the person with the drinking/alcohol problem removes themselves from the problem permanently & forever so that the marriage & they themselves have a chance of being who & what they have the capability of being without the influence of alcohol.

I'm thinking that how much you really want your marriage to work will determine just how determined & willing to give up the alcohol that caused this to happen you really are.

Obviously, there must me something under it all that came out with the alcohol & you need to get yourself into therapy to help work on that also along with your alcohol addiction/dependence also so you can learn skills to control your desire for the alcohol & give you the internal strength to abstain no matter what the temptations are or become.

It's also important for your wife & family to get into therapy to learn how to deal with your struggle against the alcohol so that they don't feed into the temptation you will already be struggling with.

The real issue is what is underlying the cause for your drinking in the first place & what was underlying (other than alcohol) your treatment of your wife & one other in the house. It's nice to have someone who wants to give you a second chance but you need to understanding EVERYTHING that went into blowing in in the first place beyond the known alcohol.....all the underlying reasoning & thoughts that caused you to get to that place in the first place if you ever want to truly heal & have a marriage that is really based on LOVE.....you can't love someone & treat them that way no matter what your claims are.....so you really need to do a lot of soul searching with a really good therapist.