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Originally Posted by Anna72914
I do this when I'm upset and people use sarcasm. People don't seem to know when to stop, they push me and push me until I end up hitting or biting myself and then tell me I'm being manipulative when they literally wouldn't leave me alone and I had to get my feelings and stress from their annoyances somewhere.
I hope it gets better for me soon
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Anna,
Thank you. Thank you for relating with me (though, sorry you do). That is definitely a huge similarity, and it's so difficult to deal with. I can tell my husband I feel he is "...kicking me when I am already down..." though he just continues and continues. I can't tolerate emotionally unavailable and defensive partners. It's exactly part of what I had to deal with growing up. It's so difficult to keep from responding in this way, these days, because I have met my threshold for dealing with these triggers. Nothing is changing on his part -- I work very hard on mine. He has triggers, too, though he is not as in-tune with himself, and is new to the concept. Either way, it is incredibly painful, and I hope you and I do not have to deal with this for the rest of our lives.
I have tried snapping a rubber band over my arm (to mimic pain). Hardly works. Hoping my husband just gets it at some point, and stops being relentless, stubborn, and insensitive.