So sorry about all you're going through. It must have been a shock (and a traumatic one) to find out she has not been happy. She obviously has difficulties communicating her feelings since she showed you one side, but finally she let the truth out that she can no longer mask her feelings that she felt you two grew apart. Maybe she was afraid to communicate her feelings to you when she first started having doubts in the relationship.

Just because she feels this way does not mean there is anything wrong with you. Some people just grow a part. With time, maybe it will be clearer to you that you two were not right for each other. Something better suited for you is out there, but it takes a lot of time to come to terms with the end of a relationship....especially a long-term one.

I had a broken engagement where I was with the person for eight years where my ex-fiance went cold on me out of the blue. With time and healing, I was able to see that things were not as good as they seemed, and communication was an issue as well as simply outgrowing the relationship. Either way, it hurts though. Give yourself time to heal. Try to stay busy, continue to turn to people for support, consider therapy or reading/using a form of self-help to better cope and come to terms with the end. I agree with No Contact......this is what I did at the end of my relationship, and it helped me finally focus on myself.

Contact with her is like rubbing salt in the wound at this point in time. With time, my ex fiance and I finally got to the point of talking as friends here and there without it causing so much raw pain. With time, you'll reach acceptance and realization that there is something out there for you that will bring you a lot more happiness. Best wishes.