Hi Rose. Yes, you're right. We actually ended up talking about everything and helped settled down the active volcano that was my head at the time.

We've been together almost 2 years. We waited about 1 1/2 before moving in together. Still, I understand that we could've waited longer.

Yeah, I can't jump to conclusions about him, and it's always best to talk about my assumptions first, I realize.

In our discussion, he did say he's trying really hard and putting his all. He says he needs so much time by himself because he gets really tired and anxious if he doesn't get time alone. I mean, that's fair.

I wonder if my fears were simply a long series of misunderstandings?

He also said that he has been trying to get us to do more together, too. Plus, he says that I'll sometimes be busy when he has free time.

He did say he's just playing games on his phone when he takes it to the bathroom. Still, that sounds strange, but maybe I should trust that he's telling the truth?

He did bring up that he's never done anything in the past to cause me doubt, pretty much. I've never found any evidence that he's cheated or anything. Maybe I'm worrying too much?

He said he's tired of lack of trust, and that he's really sad that I don't trust him yet when he gives me his full trust (and he does). He said he doesn't understand why I don't trust him. I told him why, but he explained everything.

I'm tired of putting the poor guy through this, too. Maybe he really has been a good guy, but just has been really needing time alone.

He says he values his privacy a lot, and that's why he hides things from me.

He explained the "protection" to me, too, and his explanation actually made sense. He apologized and said he understood why I'd think anything bad.

He said he doesn't want these fights to go on. He says that we fight a bit, talk about it, and by the next day I'm upset about something again. That's true; I often get mad at the small things he does that he already explained to me.

"Regardless of what he is, or isn't, doing on line - he isn't bringing enough to the relationship to make you feel you want to continue it. That's reason enough to end it."

Yes, I couldn't agree more with this.

He has been working his butt off to cover his end of the bills. He's just in a worse financial situation because he doesn't make as much money as me, effectively. And, he'd have to be the one to move out, due to his financial status. So, that'd be really hard on him, not to mention giving up classes. He actually had to trade off to a lower-paying job to live with me. He didn't have to move in with me, but he said he wanted to.

I feel okay with this relationship once again. But, I think I'll try to post here if anything goes sour. I might need the extra support if it backfires.

I did mention breakup in this discussion of ours several times, and he says he's willing to compromise.

He seems mostly upset that I keep hurting his feelings by assuming things about him.

He isn't your average person. It could be that he genuinely needs a lot of time alone. For one, I've never heard him talk about girls or their attractiveness to me or anyone else. I've been told that he does talk about me a lot compared to anyone else.

I wouldn't be surprised if he has a dependency on me of some sort, but maybe we could work it out.

The fact that I was at my last straw but he managed to talk it out with me gives me some hope. He didn't guilt trip me at all, probably because I brought up how worried I was that he guilt-tripped me before, so he did stick to his promise at least.

You're right about the last part. I haven't had time to yet, but it's time to see a therapist. I've been studying up, and I fear I may have codependency.