Dear Jadenmia1,
Sorry your family is going through so much stress. I hope he is willing to seek medical help as soon as he returns! The "word on the street" in the US is that the Canadian health system is free but there can be a wait to be seen. Is that rumor true? He might need to have a psychiatrist diagnosis him. It sounds like you need support to. Do you have access to a therapist (through the free health system)? His issues are obviously worrying you and it is evident he is not in any position to help you with your anxiety.
There is a lot of good information at Psych Central to give you some ideas about facing your crisis. I know from my experiences with my own mental illness that it can take time to understand what is really going on. (I still am not 100% sure about what is going on in my brain.) Stay strong but don't be afraid to rant a little bit here.
Sincerely, Myst