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Originally Posted by open_soul
Hi healingme4me.
She changed ever since we got married and became friends with her only ex thatbshe only ever cared about, so she tells me. She told me this friend made her realise who she is. To me that is nonsense. Because even when we were friends she wasn't this person. I told her this friend projected on to her and she has become her because they spend so much time together. My wife has started to neglect me and not even care whether she spends time with me. She has become just like this friend and the friend is single. So now projecting thatbsame persona on my wife she acting like she not married. Like I'm just some status tonher and not a person. I told her I hate who she has become and that I am not married to the same person. Thay she took me for a ride leadig me to believe she is someone and then as soon getting married she becomes a total different person. I just can't comprehend how someone can just not care and change just like that. I am thinkin of endig it as I have told her but now I lay thinking perhaps I should see someone as well my wife. Because if I can't get through to her maybe someone else will.
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I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how you feel when you mentioned "how someone can just not care and change just like that" my recent ex became like that, he just stopped caring (so he says)... It hurts, I can only imagine how you feel. I feel like I would only be so lucky to have someone who wants to get married to me (I feel hopeless). I recommend not cheating, in the end thats what it sounded like. Maybe start seeing a relationship counselor with her? Say you have some issues and you feel that would help you. Keep me posted.