I have given up on dating. It has been many years, I have no drive and it seems all men want from a woman is sex. I have been on teh dating websites and all of the men on those websites appear to love everything I don't. I have no problem with men at arm's length from me as workmates, casual acquaintances and even husbands of other loved ones. BUT the moment a man shows interest in me to date.....I am in instant mistrust and lock myself off from them. My mistrust of men in relationships has gone very deeply to an unhealthy level. However, in my social record, I have never dated or married any man who had any other interest than their own. Men have told me themselves that my strong independence and self assurance is "threatening" to them. If I am not fluttering and acting needy toward them, they move on. I can't tolerate that behaviour anymore. I plan to remain single forever with nothing more than a friendship. I can't trust men beyond that point.