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Originally Posted by Eamgr
I've listed a few experiences as anyone else had the following said too them or similar ones.
1. You will get a job or the career you want just don't give up
2. Think positive thoughts and all your negative feelings will go away
3. Don't be sad just be happy
4. It's the depression and anxiety talking
5. Do something you enjoy and then you will be happy
6. Stop playing the victim
7. Be happier and more people will like you
8. Have more confidence and your more likely to get someone to go out with you
9. Take up a hobby
10. There are people who are much worser off than you.
For those who are not suffering with a mental illness or emotional problems etc. Being happy, enjoying life, having confidence and having full control of their mind is very basic. But they really don't know how difficult it is for people such as ourselves.
One day I know I'm going to flip at someone and say stop judging me  |
The first two simply seem as though your friends and family are attempting to be supportive in the best way they know how. Perhaps we should learn to appreciate we have people who care enough to say such things?
The third is rather silly, but seems harmless enough.
The fourth is absolutely true and I don't understand why it's listed. Sometimes I get anxious people are watching me-and following, I suppose-which is most certainly "the anxiety talking". It may be simplistic, but they at least know how depression and anxiety can alter someone's state of mind. Are you upset because they feel saying that will suffice and don't take proper measures to relieve such thoughts?
Number 5 and 9 are true, though admittedly, it is difficult to become interested in anything when life becomes dis-interesting. Nevertheless, learning new things and keeping a hobby always tends to put my mind in a good place. I think humans need to feel useful, and so we need to keep our minds busy. Again, it seems they were simply trying to help.
Number 6, if coming from the same people the other items listed are attributed to, might indicate the frustration of attempting to help someone who refuses to be helped. That, or it indicates an *** with no understanding of your situation, yet who believes (s)he does.
Number 7 is true, as it would make you more approachable. Again, I understand how difficult it is to be happy when your brain won't let you, but don't we have to, at some point, make the choice to be happy? Or at least not miserable? Honestly, I don't know why anyone would want more people to like them, but if you complained of loneliness, perhaps they were attempting to give good advice.
Number 8 is much like number 7, true, though difficult to reach. It's easy enough to tell someone to "be confident" or "be happy". For some people it comes naturally; for others practice is needed. But you must work at it.
The only item I truly, 100 percent reject, is number 10. The sorrow of another does not make your own sorrow any less valid. Let's imagine a boy whose dog has just been hit by a car. The next town over, a man's young son has just been hit by a car. Will knowledge of the grieving man the next town over stop the boy from feeling sorrow over the death of his dog?
I hope I didn't come off as rude, as this is sort of my version of being supportive. I sincerely hope it comes off that way and that this forum is helping you improve your mental health.