Thanks, you two. I feel more courage.

Thank you Bill for your validation . I keep turning my back on my feelings because I'm on a seesaw of guilt. I do feel that way over those situations.

I can see what you mean, Rose76. I should say that I don't think I ever wanted to be the "innocent" party, per se. I just want both of us to be (eventually) on goods terms and for both him and I to be the "innocent" party. I really don't have anything against him. I'm just unhappy with our relationship. I do really like your advice on how to break up with him. I agree that it isn't his fault... he really is who he is, and he shouldn't be with someone who's secretly unhappy with him. That isn't fair. I still worry about him finishing up his school first, but like your previous advice, maybe I should bring up us separating after the semester.

Yeah, I can't just wait on him to change, since he may not want to, and wouldn't be happy to.

Hm, it might be a good idea to date someone older, eventually, after I've given myself time to myself and to better myself.

It could be much better for him, too.

I'll update you guys on how it goes. I'll think over it for a day or two.