Thanks for the ideas. But honestly I don't think there is anything I cam do anymore. She wants a divorce and convincing her to not do so haa failed me. She wants to move out as soon as possible. Said she wasn't ready to get married. So now I have that to deal with. It is the worst possible thing. Not sure if I will make it but I am hanging in there. Quite stressed and depressed. Yet she keeps telling me I should smile. How can I? I wish I had answers or knew what to do.