Gosh I kind of know how that feels. I have named myself crazy because I don't know how to deal with anger I would scream and go ballistic and want to hurt myself. Knowing that my partner was triggering all this. Always ends up blaming me for everything. Carry on as if nothing happens. In an abusive relationship it's really tough especially in a emotionally abusive relationship because it affects you psychologically and you never really know what is happening and where you stand. You can't really stop anyone from spreading rumours about you and rather if you can't deal with it remove yourself from their life. If that person can't recognise that they need to see a psychologist about why they do it then it's a hopeless case. Try and get away from it all or you will make yourself sick.