Thanks. No, Iīm not looking for reasons to leave this T. I wouldnīt leave her for things she did when she was a teenager but I though feel her self-disclosure can make me see her partly differently.
Yes, this about bragging could be something you or others have specific values around and that may make you lose faith in a T because of that. Iīm not saying this was the case for you but what I mean is that self-disclosure which shows a personīs values around issues like sex, money, politics and so on might make a client lose faith in their T.
Iīm not there to judge her or to talk about her moral standards, I donīt know her that well to to that but if I get more courage, perhaps Iīll say something like "yes, I donīt judge you but I havenīt done something like that". But it depends on the situation, the things she have told me are fairly harmless, itīs more about having different moral standards.
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
It still sounds like you're looking for a reason to leave this T.
But... I also wouldn't like too much disclosure. A little is fine. I'd like to know she has a life outside her job. But I want/need her to remain the professional. For me, it's mostly due to my attachment. The less I know the better.
However, if I put my attachment issues aside, there's not a much a person can say to me that would make me judge them negatively. But... I saw one T btwn ex-T and current T for two weeks. She was talking to me about her hs reunion she was going to (I don't know why). She was bragging about how good she looks compared to her classmates and how she wanted to show off. That turned me off real quick. I told her she was being judgmental in my termination email.
So I guess I can understand.
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