Thanks. I do think she can understand me even if we have had different kind of teenage times. What she told me is something a lot of people do when it comes to teenage love and itīs more that I feel she seemed to be childish and tomfoolish and thatīs very far from how I was at the same age.
I wonīt judge it but neither will I feel it was some kind of "cool thing" to do when being young. My T also said she regretted it in the very moment so it has more to do about character traits than low morals. As a T works with people with problems I think a T should be quite serious and humble before life. Not acting like a 20 year old when youīre in your 50s or older, wearing teenage clothes and so on. My T doesnīt do all those stuff, itīs more about how I generally look upon a T and whatīs suitable self-disclosure and not.
I donīt think I now see my T in a different kind of light but more like a little less serious and less firm of character. At the same time, I know she have had "real" struggles as well and she hasnīt (yet) mentioned anything "low standard" when it comes to how she has lived her adult life.
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Originally Posted by Myrto
Perhaps you feel that because she has done X in the past (since you've referred to stuff she did as a teenager), she can't possibly understand you because she's too different from you. Is that what you mean? Because that's what I thought about reading your posts. For instance, if my T told me that she had bullied people when she was a teenager, I would instantly lose my trust in her and start judging her because I hate bullies ( I was bullied as a teenager). But that would be quite a disclosure for her to make and I don't think it would be appropriate for her to do so. It would be too revealing, too personal. Do you think your therapist disclosed too much to the point that you just can't help but see her in a different light? I guess I want to know stuff about my T but not too much (such as: her political opinions).
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