@ bronze owl. I dont think it's building up of trust. IMHO I see it as escaping and belonging.

Escaping the past, starting again and belonging; and that might happen as a diversion for a while but it's only natural to fall back and be overcome by AvPD.

We want to be loved and to give love, we want all that but that's also partly AvPD as that's what we're trying to escape and find somewhere new to feel at peace with belonging as a way to try and escape our AvPD past life.

Avoidance is our subconscious direction.