You make a lot of sense. I've always seen myself with someone that cares a lot about others. Some of the people I've most admired in my life, like some teachers, were like that. I want him to get that about me and to feel that way too. But on the other hand, he makes me feel very good about myself and is so respectful. He has a ton of good qualities that are beyond what I expected. Everything else is great. And he is willing to listen to my views, and I his. I hate to think of it like this, but maybe I wouldn't find someone who makes me comfortable and supports me as well as he does (I have some social anxiety and am amazed how comfortable I am with him when I haven't been with other boyfriends). It would be throwing something amazing away. But this issue does persist in bothering me, and sometimes when he talks about things my blood boils even though I stay calm and hear him out.

He says he is not empathetic, but yes he does treat everyone well and is very understanding with me. And he is an engineer for the money. He thought he wouldn't like any job and wants to be a blogger/book writer/video game designer, but wants to save up money and retire before following those passions. He doesn't want to live lavishly, but he he's all about saving.

I agree it's not the best idea to try to influence his beliefs. But I fins myself wanting to tell him everything I'm learning in class to do so, though I avoid talking about it for this reason. I deep down have a hope that I could change that part of him, but I don't engage in that hope and know that I shouldn't.

I guess my options are to accept his views or not accept them. If I accept them, I'm not sure if I'll feel misunderstood and like he could never get a certain aspect of my being. But I know we can both see both sides to an issue. If I don't accept it, that means letting go of someone that means everything to me and that treats me amazingly well (extremely appreciative, supportive, etc). I know without a doubt he would (and does) make me happy, except for this issue. Which I have to admit is a serious issue. :/ Maybe I need to talk to him and figure out exactly what his values are, have him define them and how he views the world and others.

It makes me sad to even be thinking it might not be right.