For me, sex is something that is between 2 people in a marriage relationship. Even if I didn't believe that it's wrong to have sex outside of marriage, I wouldn't want to do it with just anyone. I want that intimate act to be only with someone I love. I don't believe in sex as recreation. It's something that is designed to draw 2 people closer together & to make a loving relationship even more loving. Unless we shut off that part of our emotions, it's exactly what happens as we can see so many women who have sex with a guy become more attached & have an issue when the guy is only thinking of it in casual terms.

I don't want to get into messy emotional situations that end up being meaningless to the other person. I want someone who values sex the same way that I do & has the moral values & the ability to have the self-control.

Obviously most of society doesn't feel the way I do any longer but I'm NOT going to change my values to what society is demanding to be normal because I know for me It's not right & it goes deeper than just my values but it has just as much to do with the relationship I have with God & what I believe are the standards that are set by God, not by society.